I've stopped making excuses to people. Arguing with them. I've just started responding that way when they look at my stomach and ask if I'm pregnant. "Nope, just fat. But thanks for pointing it out!"
But I'm not pregnant. And even if I am, it's not any of your business. Until I decide to make it your business. Which I haven't. Cuz I'm not.
So let's stop talking about how I "look" pregnant. Cuz all you're really saying is, "Wow, you have a stomach that's pushed out further than normal and we're taking notice!" Which in turn means, "Hey, Fatty, nice gut." It really doesn't make me feel good.
I have never been one to believe in "dieting." It has always been easy for me to alter the way I eat (portion control, healthier foods, etc) and drop weight without much other effort. Obviously, my body is older and my hormones are different and things have changed. I need to put more effort into it. So I've been working out. I just started the 30 Day Shred, and am hoping that that gets me results. But I'm only 2 days in. So right now, I still have a gut and flabby butt and floppy arms. Can we not discuss it and analyze it to death? Seriously, I'm sitting at work right now, and I feel like I could cry. I just walked away from a discussion between 3 nurses about how they all think I'm pregnant. After a few "Nope, I'm just fat!" comments from me, with a hope that they'd get the point that they're hurting my feelings, I had to walk away. How do you respond to that?
Since when is it appropriate or socially acceptable to so openly discuss a woman's body? Or a woman's choice to bear (or not bear) children? One of the nurses actually had the audacity to ask me if I would be upset if I was pregnant. After telling me that I was pregnant and me denying that "fact," she had the nerve to say to me, "But you wouldn't be upset if you were pregnant, would you?" Like that would be the worst thing in the world. Maybe I would! Maybe I don't want to be pregnant. But how is that any of her business? Since when do I need to discuss my desire/ability/readiness to have children with her?
I'm absolutely appalled by the audacity of these women. I would never dream of asking a woman if she was pregnant if I was absolutely 100% sure that she was. And if I was so rude as to ask that of a woman who then tells me she's not pregnant, I would certainly not continue discussing the matter and insisting that she was! Who does that? In what way is that ok?
I am already terribly self-conscious about the weight I've gained. Having people discuss it doesn't help. I wish it were as happy an occasion as me being pregnant. But unfortunately, it's just as simple as me gaining weight. So let's move on, please. You are not helping my already delfated self image.